Co-Parenting with a Difficult Ex:
Advice You Won’t Forget
Anyone struggling to co-parent with a difficult ex knows the frustration. Unfortunately, you do too.
No one said co-parenting would be easy, but when you have a difficult co-parent, it can feel impossible. Whether they are uncooperative, uninvolved, or just plain difficult to deal with, it can be a challenge to make it work.
Tell me you can’t relate to any of this… 🙄
- Messes with the schedule
- Always needs to be right
- Demands explanations
- Thinks I am a bad parent
- Is rigid and inflexible
- Makes me the bad guy
- Refuses to communicate
- Blames me for everything
- Is late for pickups
- Has different rules and won’t try to find common ground
If any of this feels like your life, you’re in the right place.
THAT is why I created the online course Co-Parenting with a Difficult Ex: Advice You Won’t Forget!
I’m psychologist Glenda Lux and I help exasperated parents navigate the stress of coparenting with a difficult ex. I will teach you how to stay sane, be wise, and give your kids what they need. And you don’t need your co-parent on board!
If you are done with your difficult coparent, but can’t be, let’s fix that. Let’s fix that right now.
Co-parenting with a difficult ex does not have to be a dealbreaker.
What if you could:
- Disengage, Detach and Unhook from your co-parent’s behaviour
- Create healthy boundaries
- Recognize your triggers and take the wind out of them before you react in ways that don’t align with who you are
- Disengage from the power struggles
- Stop communicating in ways that don’t work or that make it worse.
- Create a safe space for your kids
- Reduce the stress of co-parenting
- Give your kids what they need to thrive despite the challenges they may be facing in your co-parenting dynamic?
Wouldn’t it be exciting to achieve this level of calm AND effectiveness despite your co-parenting reality?
I help you show up in ways that matter to your kids.
This is a
Self Paced Program
You can find a pace that suits you. The course contains 8 modules with approximately 2.5 hours of video sessions broken into manageable lengths in each module. I recommend watching these several times to help you effortlessly absorb the information and reflect between each module.
The course contains a 42 page printable and fillable workbook with exercises to help you reflect, practice and apply your new knowledge.
This course is for everyone who co-parents but in particular for those who have a difficult ex. It’s full of down to earth, practical information that is easy to consume and implement now.
YOU WILL FIND:
LEARN HOW TO NAVIGATE THE COURSE AND UTILIZE IT FOR YOUR MAXIMUM BENEFIT.
MODULE 1 How to Recognize a Difficult Co-parent.
How to Recognize a Difficult Co-parent. With this knowledge, you will shift from confusion to clarity and be better equipped to know what you are dealing with.
MODULE 2 Your North Star
Your North Star – Discover how to use what really matters to you as your guiding force. Learn why just one parent alone can have a significant positive impact on your child’s well-being even when living in co-parenting storm.
MODULE 3 Triggers
Triggers – Understand what triggers are and how they impact your responses. Learn to identify your triggers and listen to what they are telling you. Learn how to calm your triggers and turn them into an instrument that allows you reclaim your power. Learn how to regroup, strategize, and respond to your co-parent from a place of calm, steady conviction.
MODULE 4 Power Struggles
Power Struggles – Develop awareness and understand the common traps that coparents fall into. Learn tips for how to avoid them. Co-parent with your difficult ex from a place of strength and power by examining your expectations and how they impact your reactions. Learn what you can and cannot control when it comes to co-parenting with a difficult ex and why this matters. Understand the power of acceptance and how to pick and chose your battles. Unstick where you are stuck.
MODULE 5 Disengage, Detach, Unhook!
Disengage, Detach, Unhook! Learn tools to help you disengage, detach and unhook from your difficult co-parent, their actions and their impact on the kids. Learn how to break free of the unwanted grip your difficult co-parent has on you.
MODULE 6 Communication Tools
Communication Tools – Learn how to best manage the whole gamut of difficult communication that arises in challenging co-parenting situations.
MODULE 7 Boundaries
Boundaries – Set and hold boundaries with confidence even when your co-parent challenges them at every turn. Learn what types of boundaries you need to set and what words you can use. Learn how to exercise the boundary setting muscle so that it becomes second nature.
MODULE 8 Helping Your Kids
Helping Your Kids – At the heart of it all are your kids. Learn meaningful, practical tools to help your kids think critically, stand up for themselves and navigate the often rocky and emotional road that co-parenting with a difficult ex brings. Learn how to help your kids adjust and cope and how to have a continued positive impact on your kids, despite the challenges your ex creates.
If you are done with your difficult coparent, but can’t be, this course is for you.
Co-Parenting College was founded on a need to provide guidance, resources and practical help to those seeking advice on how to support their kids and themselves best as a co-parent.
Co-parenting with a difficult ex comes with a gambit of new challenges. I will give you trustworthy, real advice that is often challenging to find.
It’s my aim that Co-Parenting College can be that source of solid, down to earth information and tools you can count on to reclaim yourself and help your kids.
One parent can make all the difference in the world.
Frequently Asked Questions
1. How long does it take to complete the course?
It varies. You have lifetime access to the course (24/7) so you can take your time and go through at your own pace. It doesn’t matter how long it takes to go through, just keep moving forward. If you decided to focus on one video a week, the course would take you 11 weeks to complete. Do what works for you and your family, take the materials and try them out! Some modules may take longer than others.
2. Do I have to do the modules in order?
No. However, the modules are designed to build on each other, and I suggest doing them in order, but if you feel a later module would help you most right now, go for it! Just be sure to circle back to where you left off.
3. How do I access the course?
To access your programs, go to https://coparentingcollege.com/login/. This is your exclusive Student Area!
After you log in, scroll down to see icons for the course you have purchased.
Click your icon and dive in!
4. How do I make the most out of everything in this course?
Suggestions for learning:
- Take notes
- Watch the videos more than once
- Choose a few things to try today
- Complete the exercises in the workbook
5. What if it is not right for me?
No problem. Let me know within 30 days and I will issue a refund.
6. How long until things get better?
Some of your coursework includes trying new approaches. Some includes stopping old habits, and starting new ones. Some is about your mindset, and aha moments can happen instantly. Trying the suggestions will feel better. When we feel better, we are better parents. When we feel equipped to handle difficult situations, we feel less stress. Sometimes it takes time for things to adjust, but you can feel better right now, and if you feel better, your kids will too.
7. What is your Refund policy?
The price of this course is offered at less than the cost of two sessions with most psychologists. You are receiving carefully vetted, quality information. However, if Coparenting With A Difficult Ex isn’t everything I’ve promised, or if you end up feeling your course isn’t for you, simply let me know at email@example.com and I will refund your money, guaranteed. Just let me know within 30 days.
8. If you upgrade the course, do I get the upgrade?
Yes. Once you purchase the course you will be notified of any subsequent upgrades. And…they are yours, free!
9. What methods of payment do you accept?
Currently, I use WooCommerce and Stripe which accepts all major credit cards on our website.
10. I am cohabitating with my partner, with no plans to separate, but parenting together is difficult sometimes and we disagree on everything. Can this course help us?
Absolutely! Though not every example or strategy will apply to you, you can complete the course and learn excellent strategies for managing expectations, improving communication, and keeping the focus where it matters most.
11. How do I know this course really works?
It is easy to feel uncertain especially when your situation is really specific or super complicated or impossible. It makes sense to wonder how a program that is created for lots of co-parents can help YOUR particular problems. The truth is, helping your kids and preserving your sanity depends very little on the specifics of your co-parenting situation and much more on your willingness and ability to master a few crucial areas such as:
- Learning how to manage your emotions when you are triggered by your co-parent’s difficult behaviour.
- Learning how to disengage, detach and unhook from all those triggering things your co-parent is bringing to the table (or avoiding addressing).
- Learning to stop communicating in ways that do not work or that make it worse.
- Setting your standard for how you are going to show up as a parent and co-parent that is in alignment with your values.
- Understanding what children REALLY need in difficult co-parenting dynamics and how to show up for them in ways that matter most, even though you cannot fix all the stress and difficult that is created when co-parenting with a difficult ex.
Remember, if this course doesn’t work for you, you have 30 days to request a refund, so there’s no risk at all for you to give it a try!
13. My friend wants to take the course. Can they use my account?
No. Each student needs to purchase their own course under a separate registration. Please use the following link to refer your friend and thank you for spreading the word!
14. I’m broke but I really need this course. What do I do?
Please contact me at firstname.lastname@example.org. I occasionally provide scholarships and will do what I can to help you.
15. I think I am experiencing post-separation abuse, not just a difficult ex. Is this course right for me?
If you think you are experiencing abuse, trust your intuition! Educate yourself about domestic violence and coercive control. Domestic violence and coercive control involve much more than physical violence. Community domestic violence agencies may be a good place to start when looking for information and support. I invite you to do some reading about domestic violence in family law contexts on my blog at Lux Psychology Services.
While this course will offer you excellent information that can be helpful, if you are experiencing abuse or coercive control you need additional strategizes to help you and to ensure you and your children are safe.
15. This information is really helping me be a better parent to my kids. Should I tell my ex they need to take the course?
I would advise you not tell your ex they “need” the course in those words, but depending on your situation there may be no harm in letting them know that you found helpful information on “Co-Parenting College” (www.coparentingcollege.com) and share the link. I would advise you do not direct them specifically to the course that implicates them as a difficult co-parent.
But do temper your expectations and refrain from asking them repeatedly to check it out. Your input may be unwelcomed. The reality is there are many resources available if your ex wanted to improve their parenting and co-parenting. Chances are, if they were open to feedback or suggestions, they wouldn’t be as difficult in the first place.